Are you struggling with anxiety?
Through online therapy I help you understand where your mental health struggles come from, and teach you the skills to really change, so that you feel comfortable in your own skin again and carry tools that will help you for the rest of your life.
Ylonka de Rave
NIP-registered psychologist • Mother of 3 • 15+ years of experience
The intro call is free · No waiting list at the moment · No referral needed · Sessions in English
My mission
I help you find the calm you deserve
With more than 15 years of experience as a psychologist, as a mother of three and after a divorce of my own, I know what it is to struggle. Life experience that lets you feel genuinely understood. And from that safe base we get to work together. I help you build a solid foundation, so that you can move forward again, in your own way.
More connection
For me, therapy is about real connection. Those moments when you feel heard and we work towards a positive breakthrough together: that is what gives me energy, and it is what I want for you too. However heavy it feels right now, there is a way forward. And we take the first step on it together.
Raising emotional awareness
Many struggles begin with feelings we push away or do not recognise. I help you stop and notice what is really going on inside you, so that you come to understand yourself better. The more aware you are of your emotions, the better you can choose what genuinely fits you. That awareness is where lasting change begins.
A solid base for tomorrow's parents
After 12 years of working with children I saw it clearly: much of what children struggle with comes from what their parents carry without realising it. With the right tools now, you lay a firmer foundation for yourself and you break patterns that would otherwise be passed on. Your growth reaches further than you alone. That makes working on yourself one of the most powerful things you can do.
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Why this practice
Why De Rave Psychologie
You want to feel genuinely understood by a psychologist who knows from the inside what you are going through, and not only from her training. So that you do not have to explain everything. You need something that goes further than talking alone. You do not want to be standing in the same place again six months from now. That calls for someone who dares to go deep with you and helps you stand stronger for good. Together we work towards positive change.
No waiting list
You do not have to wait weeks while you feel awful. You can start within a few days.
No referral needed
There are no extra steps in between. You can sign up yourself, straight away.
Always the same psychologist
You are not passed around inside a large institution, and you do not have to tell your story over and over.
Fully online
From your own familiar surroundings where you feel safe, anywhere in the Netherlands, at flexible times.
In three steps
How it works
In three clear steps I guide you from intro call to treatment, at your own pace.
Intro call
A short 15-minute phone call in which we talk about what is going on and whether I am the right person to help you. Free and without obligation.
Intake session
A fuller 60-minute online session in which we go deeper into your situation and draw up a treatment plan. You get a clear picture of what is going on and a plan that fits you.
Treatment
Online sessions of 60 minutes over a secure video connection. We decide the frequency together. Between sessions you work with exercises. Session by session you feel more in control of yourself and of your life.
My philosophy
Build your inner base camp with me
Before you climb a mountain, you first build a base camp. In therapy we build your inner base camp together: a safe place where you gather strength, collect the right tools and learn to let go of old baggage. Life sometimes asks more than you think you can give. But you can do more than you think.
How I work
Three pillars for lasting change
I do not believe in a one-size-fits-all approach. What works for one person does not work for another. So we always start with your own story and build something from there that fits you. We work with three pillars, tuned to what you need at that moment, so that you learn to make head and body work together. You are stronger than your struggles. Together we make that visible.
Understand
Finding out where the imbalance comes from. Which beliefs and patterns you developed, and why they are in your way now. So that you come to understand why you do what you do.
Feel
Noticing what happens in your nervous system. Much of what you struggle with is not only in your head. I help you restore the connection with your body, so that you learn to recognise tension before it overwhelms you.
Change
Not only talking, but doing. Concrete exercises and behavioural experiments, so that you learn to respond differently outside the sessions too, and head and body stay in balance for the long term.
Investment
Packages & Pricing
Below you can see my rates and package prices. Every programme starts with a paid intake session to work out what you are struggling with and which therapy will help most. The intake session is a required part of every new programme and is charged separately from your session or package. Not yet sure whether my approach is right for you, or do you still have questions? Book a free intro call first.
Individual therapy
1 person, 60 min
The number of sessions is decided after the intake session.
Duo therapy
2 people, 60 min - for couples therapy and therapy for parents
The number of sessions is decided after the intake session.
Mental check-in
45 min per session - the session must be scheduled within the subscription period
The check-in subscription has a minimum term of one year.
The costs are not reimbursed under the Dutch basic health insurance (basisverzekering). Some supplementary insurance policies cover part of the cost. Check with your insurer.
What clients say
Deep and light at the same time, intensive but also gentle, no nonsense and with full attention to head, heart and body. It is impressive how quickly Ylonka got to the heart of what I came for. She saw what I was looking for help with perhaps even sooner than I did myself.
Understanding alone does not bring you into balance. Only when you feel it too, and behave differently, does something really change.
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Frequently asked questions
Every session is different, but in essence we talk about what is going on, explore your patterns and practise techniques you can use straight away. Sometimes we also work with breathing or body-focused exercises. There is no fixed script: we follow what you need at that moment.
Before we start working together, check your own policy with your health insurer, and keep my AGB codes to hand (practitioner 94117510, practice 94068644).
No. Because I work outside the Dutch Health Insurance Act, you can sign up directly, without a referral.
On average 6 to 12 sessions to ease your symptoms, and 12 to 18 for deeper work on patterns. We evaluate regularly, and you can stop whenever you want.
That can happen. The therapeutic relationship matters. If you notice it is not the right fit, that is completely okay. I will gladly help you find a colleague who suits you better.
Yes. Research shows that online therapy is just as effective. Many people even find it more comfortable: you are in your own familiar surroundings, with no travel time.
That is completely normal. Together we map out what is going on and where we can best begin.
Yes. Age is not the deciding factor, recognition is. I work with adults between 18 and 65. My approach works best for people who are willing to actively work on themselves.
Yes, always. You can end the treatment at any moment, without giving a reason. Appointments that have already been booked do need to be cancelled in line with the cancellation policy.
De Rave Psychologie does not have a 24-hour crisis service. If you need urgent help, contact your GP, or the out-of-hours GP service (huisartsenpost). In life-threatening situations, call 112. You can also call 113 Suicide Prevention (0800-0113, free, 24/7).
About me
Ylonka de Rave
I am Ylonka de Rave, a NIP-registered psychologist with more than 15 years of experience. I work online with people in their twenties and thirties who are stuck in patterns that once made sense but are in the way now. I do not speak from theory alone. I know first-hand how it feels to get stuck and to find your way again. I help you build a base camp you can always fall back on. Not only to ease your symptoms, but to lay a solid base for the rest of your life.
Certified in EMDR, RET, ACT, schema-focused techniques (Freedom to Fly), body-oriented techniques and solution-focused therapy, among others.
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